Falling in love likens the moment to a force as powerful as gravity – unseen but inescapable, tiring but essential, individual but also universal. Every object in its rightful place.
The preposition “in” expresses a time, location, shape, action, or indication of belief. To fall in love is within and outside of time. It is in a certain and uncertain place. It is in all shapes and sizes, open to every race, and every kind of man. It is an action. It moves. It is a verb. It causes. It is a system of belief by which we all operate; a necessary guide to living; the stable groundwork of our humanity.
Falling implies pain. Love hurts. Love will hurt. Love will make you suffer. A freefall, a skydive, a jump off the cliff, a somersault in the air, a bad landing, a slip, a crash – shattered ribs, torn ligaments, sore muscles, a broken heart.
Outside of falling in love is the faith someone will catch you – not merely to avoid every pain mentioned above – but to restore trust in people, in places, in action, in systems of belief, in the universe. It is not always written there is someone.
To be caught is not always guaranteed. Most of us will fall, and fall badly, countless times. Some will be permanently discouraged by the bruises, the broken bones, the aching mind, body, and soul. Others will keep falling, satisfied by the the exhilarating fall. For them, the adrenaline rush would suffice.
For those who have been caught, every day is a new kind of falling. There is always a dive to explore the nuances of an ever changing emotion. There is the dip in the surfaces of our intriguing human instincts. There are falls exploring complex experiences, uncommon responses, and transformative sorrows. There are falls taken together. And there are falls of the private kind.
Whatever falling in love means; however badly it has been shaped by its misuse and abuse; regardless of its relative meanings; I have no doubt the almost masochistic pleasure in the motion remains. It is a sensation beyond what our inner ears can ever detect. It can lead to pains deeper than most accidents. But it also reveals the more personal truths about ourselves, and how we choose to respond to the charge of emotions, which can be mystical, uncomfortable, life altering, and simply gravity-defying.